Taking Full Responsibility for your Life

Taking Full Responsibility for your Life and removing Excuses from your Mind.

If you look at an average person’s day to day life you will realize that his life is full of excuses and the mind justifies every action one has performed.

If you delegate a task to anyone and if you see that it has not happened to your expectation, and if you ask the person why the outcome of the task was not as per expectation, immediately you would find the person giving excuses as to why the outcome was such. I hear this almost every day of my life. And the most surprising fact is that your mind justifies and tells you why the outcome was such.

If you don’t like the outcome that has happened the first thing that you should do is to stop blaming someone or something for the outcome. Change the response to the situation and keep changing the response till the time you get the desired outcome.

The most important formula in life which we need to remember is

SITUATION + RESPONSE = OUTCOME

We need to change our response to the situation till the time we get the desired outcome and once we master this formula and understand this and apply this in our lives the more effective we become in life and we stop blaming / creating excuses and move on in life effectively.

Strategy & Execution

Was extremely busy last month as there were a lot of things happening simultaneously all personal milestones, my son cleared 12th and got admitted for higher studies for a B Tech course. My daughter went off to UK for an exchange program and we had a wedding in my family. My nephew who is in US got married and we all had a great time attending and catching up with family and friends.

This occasion also served as a life learning event for example taking the marriage.

I would split this into 2 parts the arrangement for the marriage and the ceremony the earlier part I would call  strategy and the later would term as execution.Being involved and observing how the function was planned and finally culminated served as a big learning

The Learning has been immense  and this is exactly what happens in personal life and also in professional life. We all have strategies and we implement them and sometimes they work the execution is perfect and sometimes they fail and the execution also fall apart.

Summarizing

A) strategy—-implementation/execution———-desired response

B) strategy—Implementation/execution—-undesired response

case A where the strategy worked implementation worked and outcome desired. – learning understand what went right and replicate the process.

case B where either the strategy was faulty, implementation was an issue or both has issues where the outcome was undesired. – learning understand what went wrong and correct it

1) strategy – needed course correction as situation changed which did not happen.

2) understanding the strategy was an issue hence implementation was not proper leading to the undesired outcome.

3) understanding was right implementation was the issue  hence the outcome.

• We need to understand scenarios change, dynamics change we need o understand them realize their importance and course correct.
• Communication and feedback is very important otherwise the cycle is broken and hence leading to an undesired outcome
• We need to be flexible and not rigid and course correct which again impacts the outcome.
• Choosing the correct person and delegating also has a big impact on the outcome.
•  The leader needs to be proactive and coordinate with all and ensure the execution is on the right track which again has a big bearing on the outcome.
• All the people associated has to play their role in full so as to get the desired outcome.
• Last but not the least we need to have a plan B in case plan A fails.         

     STRATEGY——->  

                EXECUTION ——->

                                =SUCCESS

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Patience and Tolerance – Most needed Virtues today

 

                      

Definition

Tolerant : ability to  tolerate  the belief, action, behavior, opinion of others.

Patience: the capacity to accept tolerate delays, problems or sufferings without being annoyed or anxious and without complaint  or being irritated.

This  is one quality or virtue which one definitely needs to inculcate in today’s world .

The world of today is of instant gratification and everything happening  at a fast pace and everybody wants everything in an instant without having to wait too long for anything . The result of which is people are being more and more intolerant and patience is found only in dictionaries, which is a sad state of affairs.

You can observe this almost everywhere in todays world – professionally bosses are intolerant of their  subordinates ,  always desiring for more, as a result having performances  not up to the mark, similarly employees wanting more and not tolerant towards to their superiors or employers and often neglecting their duties .

Parents are intolerant towards their children and vice versa. Out in the streets at an intersection without a signal, you often see vehicles pushing forward to get ahead of each other rarely would you see someone waiting and allowing another vehicle to pass.

Benefits of Tolerance / Patience

• Makes you Stress free -when you practice this you are in control of your emotions and you accept the situation and see the greater picture making you happier.

• More fulfilling relationship with people – when you are tolerant and develop your patience muscles,  you have a deeper understanding of people  with whom you are associated with hence making the relationship  better.

• You evolve to being a better person and thereby grow in life.

 

How to develop the habit of  Patience  and Tolerance

• Select a day in your life and decide that whatever happens on that day you will develop patience for the events that have happened, make an effort to take your time and think about everything you do on that day. At the end of the day sit down and analyze how your day went . You will see that you would have understood issues better, made smarter choices, and got along well with others. – repeat this frequently and soon you would be doing this every day and you would see your capacity of tolerance and patience improving.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

GEM ( Going the Extra Mile )

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Going the Extra Mile

A small principle which has immensely benefited me is what I like to share today – this is something which I practice both at my work place and in my personal life. – Going the Extra Mile (GEM). What this means is –  Doing more than what is expected from you in a given situation without aspiring for a gain or reward, either professionally and personally. This is one thing that will definitely take you ahead in life if you master the technique. The soundness of this principle can be proved if put in ones practice in daily life activities. Benefits of going the extra mile are enormous

•  Making you invaluable
• Your credibility will increase
• You would find lot more opportunities coming your way
• You would find lot of people looking up to you.
• You will feel good with yourself.
• You will be a person of influence.

Examples of Going the extra mile . There are a lot of examples I could give about going the extra mile …

• I had a friend in Blore who was working as a medical representative for a company, his job was to meet doctors and get business form them , what he used to do was to doctors with good practice he collected their birthdays and made it a point to wish them on their birthday and give a small token a flower , a card etc. to the doctor. Needless to say the doctors always remembered him and gave his better treatment than the other visiting representatives.This was an initiative which he himself used to do and was not told to do by his company as a result of which there was an emotional bonding with the doctor and himself and you would have guessed the outcome in his professional sphere… he was one of the best, consistent  sales performers in the company.
•  Once my colleague asked for help and told my his sister was coming for an interview in my town and to arrange a PG accommodation for her. Which I deputed to my junior who went out of the way and checked several accommodation and zeroed down on the best one as per convenience and budget and proximity to workplace.She came attended the interview and wanted to get back to the railway station to catch a train back home . I booked a cab took  time off from work and accompanied her to the station and put her safely in the train .

This is a classic case of going the extra mile. I am sure all of you would also have examples of  going the extra mile and for those who haven’t had the experience yet  this is the right time to go the extra mile and see the benefits of going the extra mile …. in this year.